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There's always better out there. You have to choose your best!

One of my favourite things about my friends and our very tumultuous conversations is that, one way or the other, we drop serious bars, and even after the conversations, I find myself calling my friend back to ask her what she said, exactly the way she said it. I start thinking about it till I can make something decent out of what was said as a joke.

I was at a workshop yesterday and my friends and I had a quick yap session in the bathroom, with one of them sharing good news about a milestone that had been in view for a minute now and the other wallowing in the fears of not being able to keep anything in her belly and then me, just listening and laughing cause with them, even the ugliest of laughs is acceptable.

In between staying in the restroom while our mates were validating the roadmap, the conversation of whether or not there’s better out there came up. My very wise friend, Damola, says, " There will always be better out there. You have to choose the best. When she said this, I carried it on a surface level, the conversation spanning from different areas where things could be better and how much things could change with time. Still, as the conversation progressed, this same friend said something that solidified what I had thought but did not know how to express.

She said this statement expresses contentment. In essence, what matters is that no matter how much better it gets, if you are not content with what you have, the search for better may very quickly become detrimental. Take, for instance, you can have a boyfriend, but that won’t stop you from seeing more good-looking men daily. Would you then say this guy is finer, he is better for me? NO, at least I would like to believe so. (Am I right?)

Sitting in my thoughts, a whole day after this conversation, I have just one dilemma: my head has tried to wrap itself between the possibility that the best that I have chosen or may choose may not necessarily be as good as the better I could get and what if in picking my best, I genuinely miss out on the better I could get and my choice of best starts to come from a place of complacency. Do you get my point?

My fear is, in a bid to be content, what if I am shooting myself in the leg and actually picking a safe option without knowing? Outside of the fact that always looking for the better to come makes me insatiable, a trait that could very easily become a flaw, how do I strike a balance?

Anyways, that’s it for episode one of bants turned thoughts, please share your thoughts!